How to Disclose: The Only Advice + Scripts You’ll Ever Need
Everything I’ve learned about herpes, confidence, and disclosure
A few months ago, I sat down to write a post with all of my disclosure advice, lived-through tips, and recommended scripts.
But as I started jotting my thoughts down, I realized I had a lot to say (shocker, I know), and that there are foundational aspects to a successful disclosure that go deeper than just talking points.
As someone with a comms background who feels (oddly) passionate about the how, what, when, where, and why of a vulnerable conversation, it was clear there was a lot of ground to cover.
So, I thought through a lot of questions from a lot of perspectives. And I’ve been carefully crafting a guide that goes way beyond just the D word…it’s everything you’ll ever need to know about having herpes and disclosing it to others.
Here’s what it covers:
How does herpes actually work?
What are the real chances of passing it on, with actual transmission data for your specific type?
Why does the stigma even exist?
How do you build confidence and kick shame to the curb?
How do you prepare for, time, and approach a disclosure conversation?
What do you actually say – for dating, hookups, genital HSV, oral HSV, and asymptomatic carriers – for both HSV-1 and HSV-2?
How do you handle rejection or a successful disclosure?
How do you stop tying your self-worth to a diagnosis and actually move forward?
All of that – and more – is wrapped up into one book that I am, truthfully, extremely proud of.
AND IT’S FINALLY READY. 🎉
Video demo is at the bottom of this post + an overview of the disclosure scripts!
Here’s exactly what you’ll get (aka 150+ hours of my blood, sweat, and tears because I am a bonafide perfectionist):
A full education on HSV: how it works, how it spreads, transmission data, reducing risk, and how to manage outbreaks
The history behind herpes stigma and why it’s so overblown
Mindset and confidence guidance to build you back up
Complete disclosure guidance: timing, approach, tips, and what to actually say
13 ready-to-use disclosure scripts covering dating and hookup situations for G-HSV, O-HSV, and asymptomatic carriers (that have been carefully vetted by herpes-negative people!)
How to handle rejection, celebrate success, and move forward
40+ pages. 5 easy-to-read, organized chapters. Delivered as both an interactive digital guide and downloadable PDF that you can reference again and again.
Who it’s for: Whether you’re newly diagnosed, disclosure-anxious, or anywhere in between, this is for you. While the guide focuses primarily on genital HSV, it also covers oral herpes and asymptomatic carriers throughout.
It’s $25 – less than a therapy copay, and a lot more specific to your situation. 😉
I hope this guide meets you exactly where you are… and helps you get to where you want to go.
Check out a quick demo here — can be viewed on mobile, desktop, or downloaded as a PDF ⬇️
Here’s an overview of the scripts ⬇️
